If it is just for pleasure, then living a pleasurable life within the boundaries of Shariah is also allowed. When one fulfills his need with his lawful partner, then there should be no harm in there. However, one should not exceed the limits by making it a regular habit and overdoing things which would damage one’s health.

Our sufi Saheb mentions a home made Cure which is easy and natural. Boil one cup of milk, add 2/3 spoons of good natural honey, take an egg (a free range one) whisk it, mix it in the milk and drink it. Do this every morning or when needed, this will restore your energy and improve sexual health.

2, your second question needs to be rephrased to “what is the correct way”

There are special books written on this subject, one of the recent ones is ‘Islamic guide to sexual health’ by mufti muhammad ibn Adam, available from azhar academy.

Allah says in Surah al Baqrah:
“They enquire from you regarding mensturation, say: it is something in which there is harm, so stay well away from (intercourse with) ladies during their period, and do not go near them until they regain taharah, so when they have washed themselves, go to them from where Allah has instructed you, surely Allah loves those who oft-repent and those who stay clean. Your wives are (like) a field for you, so come to your field from whatever way you like, and send forth for yourself (some children) And fear Allah and know that you will definitely meet him (one day) and give good news to those who believe” (2:222,223)

The ayat indicates that positions do not matter, it is the state and the place which are more important, the state of haidh should be avoided, the anus should be avoided, as it is not a field of reproduction. Wassalam

Answer: In this situation, A solution would be to perform her Salah in congregation in which a male mahram person leads her in Salah ie. Husband, son, brother etc.

Another option would be that when she performs Salah; a second person should do Talqeen (i.e. to inform her of which raka’at she is currently performing).

Mufti Muhammad Shafee rahmatullahi alayhi writes in his Tafseer, Ma’ariful Quran, Volume 1 Page 379-380):
“As we have already noted, Al-Bukhari reports a hadith from the blessed companion Abdullah ibn Umar, relating how the people of Quba turned towards the Baytullah even in the course of their prayers as soon as they heard the commandment about the change in direction.

Commenting on this incident, the great Hanafi scholar Al-’Ayni says:
وفيه جواز تعليم من ليس في الصلاة من هو فيها وفيه استماع المصلي لكلام من ليس في الصلاة لا يضر صلاته (عمدة القاري شرح صحيح البخاري الصفحة 392 جز6 )
“This hadith establishes the rule that a man who is not offering his prayers may teach or instruct the man who is engaged in his prayers. In another place Al-Ayni also adds that from this hadith, Al-Tahtawi has derived the rule that if a man engaged in his prayers hears the words spoken by one who is not so engaged it does not invalidate his prayers.
(Umdah al- Qari)

It is also stated in Shami, (pg 100 volume 2):
( ولو اشتبه على مريض أعداد الركعات والسجدات لنعاس لحقه لا يلزمه الأداء )
ولو أداها بتلقين غيره ينبغي أن يجزيه كذا في القنية
حاشية:( قَوْلُهُ يَنْبَغِي أَنْ يَجْزِيَهُ ) قَدْ يُقَالُ إنَّهُ تَعْلِيمٌ وَتَعَلُّمٌ وَهُوَ مُفْسِدٌ كَمَا إذَا قَرَأَ مِنْ الْمُصْحَفِ أَوْ عَلَّمَهُ إنْسَانٌ الْقِرَاءَةَ وَهُوَ فِي الصَّلَاةِ ط .
قُلْت : وَقَدْ يُقَالُ إنَّهُ لَيْسَ بِتَعْلِيمٍ وَتَعَلُّمٍ بَلْ هُوَ تَذْكِيرٌ أَوْ إعْلَامٌ فَهُوَ كَإِعْلَامِ الْمُبَلِّغِ بِانْتِقَالَاتِ الْإِمَامِ فَتَأَمَّلْ .

It is also stated in Fatawa Hindiyyah (page 138, volume 1)
مُصَلٍّ أَقْعَدَ عِنْدَ نَفْسِهِ إنْسَانًا فَيُخْبِرُهُ إذَا سَهَا عَنْ رُكُوعٍ أَوْ سُجُودٍ يُجْزِيهِ إذَا لَمْ يُمْكِنْهُ إلَّا بِهَذَا ، كَذَا فِي الْقُنْيَة

It is also stated in Al Bahr ur Raiq (page 204 volume 2)
وَلَوْ كَانَ يَشْتَبِهُ عَلَى الْمَرِيضِ أَعْدَادُ الرَّكَعَاتِ أَوْ السَّجَدَاتِ لِنُعَاسٍ يَلْحَقُهُ لَا يَلْزَمُهُ الْأَدَاءُ وَلَوْ أَدَّاهَا بِتَلْقِينِ غَيْرِهِ يَنْبَغِي أَنْ يُجْزِئَهُ ا هـ .

It is also stated in Al Mawsu’ah al Fiqhiyyah (page 356 volume 36):
وَكَذَلِكَ لَوِ اشْتَبَهَ عَلَى الْمَرِيضِ أَعْدَادُ الرَّكَعَاتِ وَالسَّجَدَاتِ بِأَنْ وَصَل إِلَى حَالٍ لاَ يُمْكِنُهُ ضَبْطُ ذَلِكَ ، فَصَرَّحَ الْحَنَفِيَّةُ عَلَى أَنَّهُ لاَ يَلْزَمُهُ الأدَاءُ ، وَلَوْ أَدَّاهَا بِتَلْقِينِ غَيْرِهِ فَيَنْبَغِي أَنْ يُجْزِئَهُ .

It is also stated in An Nahr ul Faiq (page 334 volume 1):
قيد بتعذر القيام لأنه لَوِ اشْتَبَهَ عَلَيه أَعْدَادُ الرَّكَعَاتِ أَوْ السَّجَدَاتِ لَم يَلْزَمهُ الْأَدَاءُ وَلَوْ أَدَّاهَا بِتَلْقِينِ غَيْرِهِ يَنْبَغِي أَنْ تُجْزِئَهُ كَذَا فِي ((الْقُنْيَة))

(M. Uddin1/12)

Answere: A girl becomes baaligh when her periods start (haydh), and not when any bleeding starts. The minimum period is 3 days and the maximum is 10. See nurul iydah page 38:

وأقل الحيض ثلاثة أيام وأوسطه خمسة وأكثره عشرة.
“The minimum period for haydh is 3, normally 5, and at most 10”

Since her bleeding is less than 3 days, it would be classed istihazaa (non-menstrual non-postnatal bleeding) and not haydh, so she would not be considered baaligha yet. (a/hafiz1/12)

A1. Yes. A person will go in Jannah with his wife or wives.

Allah says in the Quran that those people who had intelligence ie. wisdom of deeni affairs and held on to life of piety will get:

أُولَٰئِكَ لَهُمْ عُقْبَى الدَّارِ – جَنَّاتُ عَدْنٍ يَدْخُلُونَهَا وَمَنْ صَلَحَ مِنْ آبَائِهِمْ وَأَزْوَاجِهِمْ وَذُرِّيَّاتِهِمْ

“For them there is the final attainment of the (eternal) home; Gardens of perpetual bliss: they shall enter them, and so will their fathers, their spouses, and their offspring who have done good. (13:22-23)

Again, Allah says in surah zukhruf (43:70-71), that the believers will be told:

ادْخُلُوا الْجَنَّةَ أَنْتُمْ وَأَزْوَاجُكُمْ تُحْبَرُونَ
يُطَافُ عَلَيْهِمْ بِصِحَافٍ مِنْ ذَهَبٍ وَأَكْوَابٍ وَفِيهَا مَا تَشْتَهِيهِ الْأَنْفُسُ وَتَلَذُّ الْأَعْيُنُ وَأَنْتُمْ فِيهَا خَالِدُونَ
““Enter happily into Paradise, both you and your wives.” They will be served (food and drink) from gold trays and gold cups. Inside will be everything that the person desires and the eyes find sweet. “You will stay there forever.”

These verses show that a Muslim will enter into paradise along with his wife or wives. The man and his wife will live as king and queen, reclining on couches and being served food and drink from gold cups and trays, filled with the most delicious fruits. They will have servants running around doing all the work for them, while they need not do anything – they only enjoy themselves.

Obviously, wife or wives from this world will be made superior to the Hoors.

For example, the Prophet (saw) called his daughter Fatimah “sayyidatu nisaa ahlil jannah” – the queen of the women of Paradise – and since Paradise will have hoors and human women, it shows that the human women will be superior.

When the beauty of the hoor is what we read in Quran and Hadith, and the human women of Jannah will be superior to them, one can only imagine how beautiful Allah will make the human women of Jannah.

Bazzaar narrates in his Musnad from Abu Hurayrah rad. “Someone asked “Ya Rasulallah! Will we have intercourse with our wives in Jannah? He replied: “Yes …………..Al-Hadith ” (Saheeh)

Al Makhrami narrates from Ibn Abbas: We asked “Ya Rasulallah! Will we have intercourse with our wives in Jannah just as we do in dunya? And he replied with a similar answer.

Bazzaar narrates from Abu Saeed Khudri rad. That rasulullallh sallallahu alayhi wasallam said “When the people of Jannah will have intercourse with their wives, they will return to their virginity” (All 3 Hadith are narrated by imam qurtibi in attazkirah p156 vol2).

There will be no reproduction in Jannah as children are needed where a person fears who will inherit him after his death? so he wants children, also one thinks about old age, who will help me when I get old? There is no death nor old age in Jannah, so there won’t be any need for children.

May Allah grant us jannatul firdaws and bless us with all the ni’mats of Jannah. Ameen. (a.hafiz 1/12)

My step-father has had such a great and positive impact in my life; I easily call him dad and have accepted him to be my father at ease. I love him very much and he is very dear to me. He has clean noble intentions. I recently asked my wife to take off her niqaab when my step-father is around the house; however I mentioned she can still cover her arms, body and hair. She started crying uncontrollably and things are not the same between us. Am I being unreasonable? I would just like to hear your views and what you think I should do in line with shariah and contextualise with regards to my situation.

Answer: Firstly, you should understand that married life is based around trust. You should trust your wife’s intentions for doing purdah in this situation.

As your wife is doing Niqab with her own choice and will, there should be no reason for anyone to stop her.

Your stepfather is not your wife’s Mahram, so you should not feel any awkwardness, as she is trying her utmost to abide by the guidance of shariah.

However, she would not be required to treat him like a total stranger walking in the street. If she wears proper clothing and just leaves her face open while doing the housework or during family gathering, then there is some flexibility. It is hoped that she will not be sinful in doing so. Allah knows best.

I have huge problems after my periods. This affects the people around me. I understand this is not a good habit however it is out of my control. At this time I tend to have mood swings, feel emotionally down, and feel upset as well as anger. I am hurt by small things and I’m likely to cry often. I get headaches and feel generally ill. I usually just keep silent and not say much and just keep myself to myself however whenever this happens my mother shouts at me and blames me for other things. I do all the housework and she will still say I do nothing at all. She will just ignore me and treat me differently. She says all my namaz or any ibadat I do is washed away when this happens. Is this true?

Answer: What your mother said is not true. It is she who is in the wrong. She should not be treating you so harshly, she will be questioned on the Day of Qiyamat. Accepting deeds is Allah’s business. He accepts and he rejects, How can she judge what will be accepted and what won’t be?

Do your khidmat as much as you can and Inshallah Allah will reward you in full.
Allah says, “If you are good then he is Forgiving for those who turn to him”(17:25)

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A3. The voice of a female is attractive and therfore regarded as an awrah.

Allah says in the quran. فلا تخضعن بالقول فيطمع الذي في قلبه مرض
Trans: (Wives of the prophet!)”Do not be tender in your speech, lest people in whose hearts there is sickness may lust after you” (33:32)

One Hadith says: “المرءة عورة فإذا خرجت استشرفها الشيطان ولا تكون اقرب الي الله منها في قعر بيتها”

A female is awrah ( that which should be concealed) when she leaves her abode, shaytan raises eyebrows at her, she cannot be more closer to Allah than when she is in the inner part of her house. (Mishkaat) So listening to a female’s voice can be allowed when needed, however, without necessity or when lust overcomes, it will be a sin to do so.

The similitude of what you have asked is like a person asking whether one would rather be buried alive or burnt alive. Naturally, a person would prefer neither. Likewise, asking which of two things is the greater sin assumes a person has the capacity to withstand the punishment that such an act would incur. The punishment of the Hereafter is very severe and a person should never assume that they will be able to bear it. Consequently, one should avoid all kinds of sins and should not concern oneself with which is the bigger sin.

Answer: Talaq is only given in anger, nobody says “Begum I love you, so i’m giving you talaq” therefore, the talaq will take effect even if he was in a fit of anger and nobody else heard it. Apology is of no use.

If you definitely heard him say it, then, if he said it only once and he wants to stay with you, he may do so, however this talaq will stay in his books, ie. If he gives another one after some time, it will be added to the first one, and if gives another one for a third time, then there will be no room for reconciliation. All three will be added up.

If he said it three times, then you are both finished, you should stay away from one another immediately. Any passionate contact will be classed as zina. Seek help from your family members or others to get the marriage dissolved.

People will tell you about halala, but that is not a recommendation of shariah, let alone it being a command.

May Allah help you and take care of you through such turbulent times. Ameen

Are fake eyelashes and eyelash extensions allowed?

Answer

Both fake eyelashes, which are a one-piece eyelash glued to the existing eyelash, and eyelash extensions, where synthetic hair is glued to each eyelash are normally not allowed. This is because any form of transient / temporary beauty treatments done just for the sake of it, are not allowed.

The only times they WOULD be allowed is when a woman has seriously stunted eyelashes that make her look ugly, and she needs the eyelash extensions to make her look normal. Similarly, a wife who does it for her husband (and not anyone else) would also be allowed.

We, however, would recommend using natural, long term methods. The daily use of good quality Kuhl (which is also called ‘surma’ and ‘kajal’) is recommended. It is Sunnah, and was used by the Prophet (Saw) and sayyida Aisha (ra), along with many other sahaba. To learn more about the Sunnahs of the Prophet, please read “shamail tirmidhi”, by the Hadith expert Imam Tirmidhi, and its commentary by a modern hadith expert, Sheikh Zakariyya: http://www.inter-islam.org/hadeeth/st7.html and http://www.amazon.co.uk/Shamaail-Tirmidhi-Imam/dp/B001LBD5JK

Answer: Nothing happens. Don’t worry, milk relations only take effect if the milk is taken during the suckling period which is 2 years, according to shafi madh’hab and 30 months according to imam Abu hanifa’s research.