Salam. I pray you can help me. I have been married for 17 years and have 4 children.
I am a professional, Our marriage was with not an arranged one but due to our love for one another.
Last week my husband asked if he could have a second wife. I understand it is permissible. However, I can’t accept this. This has since caused a lot of hurt and anger.
My husband says its ok. But I am not convinced. How can we move forward. I am so hurt by the suggestion. I can’t believe he has asked me this. The children have seen us argue and feel my pain. Please advise me please.
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Walaikumussalam w w
I don’t know what to say but first tell him to talk to someone who has had experience with a second wife.
Thereafter if he insists, then be patient, don’t argue but try to win him over
Remember he does not want to have a second wife because there is something wrong with you, rather it’s just his desire to do so. And there is not much we can do to control that. At the end of the day you will be rewarded for your patience.
Would it not be better than having him commit zina? There are many men out there who have a secret affair and keep committing zina and get affected by diseases and bring those diseases into the home.
So you would be rewarded for helping him avoid sin.
May Allah make things easy for you